Robin Thicke reflects on drug and alcohol abuse: 'I lost myself'
Robin Thicke is reflecting on losing himself amid drug and alcohol abuse.
In conversation with Dax Shepard and Monica Padman on the Armchair Expert podcast, the singer talked about taking opioids and drinking during his "Blurred Lines" era, but then falling into old habits again in recent years while trying to cope with a lot of loss — of dad Alan Thicke, mentor Andre Harrell and his house, which burned down in the California wildfires. "I lost myself," he admitted, but added, "I have finally woken up."
"I just went through my darkest days," the Masked Singer judge, 44, admitted. "My father, my house, my mentor, my addictions — just everything at the same time all hit the wall. I don't want to be that person ever again."
His struggles amid his "Blurred Lines" success in 2013 were well-documented, both during his divorce from Paula Patton and his copyright lawsuit infringement lawsuit with the estate of Marvin Gaye. During a deposition for the latter, he said using the opioid painkiller Vicodin mixed with alcohol left him in a haze for a full year.
"It wasn't until my 30s" that addiction problems surfaced, he said. Before, "I was in good control of my faculties. I was a beer and a glass of wine kinda guy. It wasn't until the touring and partying and the lifestyle. You just think you can manage it all. You think you can keep going at that pace. And then your habits catch up with you."
Shepard, who recently had a relapse with pills, said, "Opiates have the illusion of being manageable, don't they?"
"Yes," Thicke replied. "And the illusion of normalcy. Some form of normalcy. You don't have to hide in the bathroom. You're not falling down or slurring your words. It's not on your breath. You can't necessarily see it in the eyes."
Thicke said he didn't want to be "reckless" in his account of his substance abuse — or the timeline of it.
"The 'Blurred Lines' stuff, that was a pill thing. That was pills, drinking, my back was hurting," he said. "It started from traveling on long flights, back pain and then it just became a bad habit."
The second wave was "once all that 'Blurred Lines' madness stopped and I moved to Malibu [in 2015]. I had a really nice honeymoon [period] with April [Love Geary] for a while," referring to his now-fiancée whom he started dating in 2014 after separating from Patton. "Then the honeymoon slowed down and the drinking increased."
It was exacerbated by the sudden death of his dad, star of Growing Pains, from a heart attack in 2016, which was followed by more turmoil: the death of his manager, Jordan Feldstein, in 2017, and then the loss of his house, which burned down in 2018. Professionally he was struggling, feeling like he was "out of the music business," and, on top of that, he gained 50 pounds.
In that period, "I lost myself," he admitted. "I was making music that wasn't even from my heart anymore. That's where I kind of lost myself for a while."
It was when he suffered even more loss — the death of his mentor, record executive Harrell, last May during the early months of COVID — that things came to a head.
"It all became very clear," he said of facing his troubles. "I was functioning. I wasn't high all day. It was more like: take care of the kids and once they're asleep I'm going to drink myself to sleep. But then you're cranky in the mornings. Then you're arguing with your lady. You don't remember what you said. Then you're like: This isn't a life for a family and I can't be the dad I want to be like this."
The father of four added, "I have to change my life."
Of that whole era, from "Blurred Lines" until last year, "Knowing what I know now, I could have managed it all better. It turns out I had a child inside of me that needed unrealistic things. I had unrealistic desires — and then they got more selfish. The more successful I became, the more selfish my desires became."
Thicke, whose new album On Earth, and in Heaven came out last month, continued, "With a little therapy and some self-realization and just some reality slapping you in the face, I have finally woken up and now I can be myself, love myself."
He said he focuses on "balance" now, a mantra he adopted from his dad. It involves getting enough rest, being present for his children, being present at work. While before, he realized "'You are standing in your way.' I've been in my way for too long."
During the conversation, Thicke also touched on his contentious divorce from Patton, whom he was with for 21 years, since he was 15 and 16. They have a 10-year-old son together and attended co-parenting couples therapy together after their split and custody battle.
"Because we both were in the business, we changed," he said. "The business does change your outlook, your desires, the way you think about yourself. It just changes things. [We] had so much love and positivity — the quintessential Hollywood romance: I helped [the Mission: Impossible – Ghost Protocol actress] with her lines before auditions, she helped me with my choruses when I got stuck. We lived the dream — then it didn't work anymore."
Of Geary, with whom he shares three young children, he said, "The great thing is I've been lucky enough to find someone in April who could care less about that stuff. She likes the father in me... She likes my sense of humor and what a dad I am. She could care less if I ever hit a stage again."
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