Breaking the Specialness Spiral: Embracing the idea that every day is special

Picture this: you bring home that gorgeous candle, envisioning the cozy ambiance it'll create in your space. But instead of enjoying it right away, you hold back, waiting for that elusive "special occasion" to come around. And guess what happens?

That candle becomes more than just wax and wick – it becomes a symbol of untapped potential, locked away in its pristine packaging. With each passing day, the pressure mounts to find the perfect moment to light it, until it feels too special to be used at all. Sound familiar?

Welcome to the Specialness Spiral, my friends. This is a concept that’s all too familiar to many of us. If you’ve ever found yourself holding onto that beautiful candle, waiting for the “perfect” moment to light it, you’re not alone.

Most of us have that candle that we have held onto so long that it has lost its scent, or the heirloom silverware that hasn’t ever seen a crumb and is growing tarnished. But fear not! There's a simple solution to break free from this cycle: burn the nice candle.

Embrace the idea that every day is special enough to indulge in the things that bring you joy. Whether it's that luxurious lotion, that expensive bottle of wine, or that fancy dinner set, every moment is an opportunity to celebrate life's little pleasures.

In my book, Make Space for Happiness, I talk about how using your nice stuff can help you be more intentional about the items you buy and actually use.

By letting go of the pressure to save things for a "special occasion," you can reclaim the joy of everyday life.

So, the next time you find yourself hesitating to use that special item, remember my mantra: burn the nice candle. In doing so, you'll not only fill your home with warmth and fragrance but also reclaim the true purpose of your possessions – to be enjoyed, cherished, and celebrated every single day.

So go ahead, and embrace the beauty of the present moment. Let's break free from the specialness spiral and rediscover the joy of living life to the fullest, one fancy candle burn at a time.