An 81-Year-Old Woman Is Going Viral For Voting For The First Time After Her Late Husband Didn't Think She Should
An 81-year-old woman is going viral for casting her first-ever vote, but the reason why is shocking people.
According to the news station, Cartledge said she had never voted because her husband did not think she should. He died last year. This year, she voted.
She told WSB-TV, "I was so young and everything when we got married, I didn't ever think about it. And then when I got old, I still didn't think about it, [that] it would count."
Now, she's hoping to keep voting. "It was neat, it was good," Cartledge said of going to the polls for the first time. "If I'm here, I'll be back."
People have had many reactions since the story made its rounds on Twitter. "I'm angered, saddened, appalled…and rejoicing…all at the same time," one person wrote.
"One of the saddest things I've ever heard," someone else said.
"misogyny is an insane thing for a woman who had the right to vote for her entire lifetime and never got to do it until now.." another person tweeted.
As Betty's story goes viral, many have pointed out that she's likely not the only woman whose vote is controlled by their husband.
Whether or not women vote like their husbands has been a decades-long debate. Overall, it's hard to know exactly how much influence men have over the votes of wives or women in their lives, but Betty's story reminded people that it may be more common than we think.
Olivia Dreizen Howell, the CEO and cofounder of Fresh Starts Registry & Vote Without Fear, a website that helps women have a voice after a breakup or divorce, tweeted that she's been getting the question, "Can my husband find out who I am voting for in the presidential election?" a lot ahead of Nov. 5.
She reminded women that while it's public record that you voted, how you filled out your ballot is not public record. "You do not have to tell your husband or boyfriend who you voted for," she tweeted in response to Betty's viral story.
This isn't the first time women have sent the "woman to woman" reminder that they have the right to their own concealed and protected vote before Election Day. Earlier this year, sticky notes started popping up in women's restrooms, reminding women what's on the line and that their votes are private.
According to a survey by KFF, abortion has emerged as the most important issue in the November election for women under 30.
Others have shared their own experience witnessing men silencing women's vote. One person wrote, "As a poll worker, I have had to deal with husbands and fathers who want to join their wives or daughters in the voting booth to 'make sure they vote the right way.'"
Similarly, in response to Betty's story, Mandy Powers Norrell, a former Democratic member of the South Carolina House of Representatives, recalled when she called a woman to thank her for her vote during her first campaign, only to be met by an angry husband on the other line. "He was furious and screamed, 'my wife will NOT be voting for you!'"
While Betty's story may come as a shock, it's a reminder that women are still fighting for their autonomy, and many still don't have it, even within their own homes. After all, it wasn't until 1974, when the Equal Credit Opportunity Act passed, that women were allowed even to open their own bank accounts. Women were only allowed to start their own businesses without a signature from a man in 1988 — that's only 36(!) years ago. And even when discrimination gets eradicated "legally," it doesn't always mean it does in the home, at school, or even in the rhetoric of our country's leaders.
Today, the power of women's vote matters more than ever. If you're a Betty or know someone who might be, remember, as this person tweeted, "Your vote is private. Your vote is yours and yours alone. Don't let anyone take that away from you."
Has your boyfriend, husband, or partner ever suppressed, controlled, or prevented your vote? Or, have you had a friend or family member who had that happen? Let me know what happened in the comments or on this anonymous form.